Let's be honest some of us are selfish in the bedroom. We are selfish with our needs, emotions and desires. Why don't you break the cycle of self-centered behaviors and shift your focus towards loving, connection, and erotic desires towards your partner.
The first step towards this journey is learning to "Create A Space of Balance"
Balancing the power of feeling connected and seeking intimacy allows connection and intimacy to enter into the space.
Tips for Developing Erotic Attunement in Your Relationship
Cultivate Emotional Presence
Be fully present with your partner during intimate moments. Put away distractions, maintain eye contact, and actively listen to their feelings and desires. Emotional presence is the foundation for deeper connection.
Understand Your Partner’s Needs
Take the time to learn what makes your partner feel loved, desired, and appreciated. This can include their love language, boundaries, and sexual preferences. Open communication is key.
Engage in Intentional Touch
Explore your partner’s body with care and curiosity. Use touch not just as a means to an end but as a way to express love and create intimacy. Start with non-sexual touch (like holding hands, a back rub, or a warm embrace) and build from there.
Set the Mood for Connection
Create a sensual atmosphere that encourages relaxation and intimacy. Think about lighting, music, scents, and comfort. A well-thought-out environment shows effort and builds anticipation.
Practice Mindful Breathing Together
Sync your breathing with your partner during intimate moments. This simple practice can help you feel more connected and attuned to each other’s energy.
Be Open to Exploration
Encourage a spirit of curiosity by exploring new ways to connect emotionally and physically. This could involve trying new activities, experimenting with touch, or having candid conversations about fantasies and desires.
Check in Regularly
Ask for feedback and share your own experiences. What feels good? What could be improved? These check-ins build trust and ensure both partners feel heard and satisfied.
Prioritize Playfulness
Keep the energy light and fun. Laughter and playfulness can ease tension, build closeness, and create a safe space to express yourselves.
Use Positive Reinforcement
Compliment and affirm your partner during intimate moments. Let them know what you love about their touch, movements, or presence. Positive feedback strengthens connection and builds confidence.
Align Your Intentions
Make intimacy a shared priority by aligning your thoughts and behaviors with the goal of connection. Whether it’s planning a date night or surprising your partner with an act of affection, these intentional acts keep the focus on closeness.
Slow Down
Avoid rushing intimacy. Slowing down allows both partners to fully experience and enjoy the moment, increasing emotional and physical attunement.
Build Emotional Safety
Create a space where vulnerability is welcomed. Sharing fears, desires, and even insecurities strengthens trust, which is essential for deep erotic attunement.
Ask your partner?
"Are you showing up in the Erotic Space in ways that are benefits to them? "
Are you aware of what they want and desire in the bedroom?"
Do they provide a space of safety and vulnerability?
Certified Sexologist Nita Love
CEO, Nita Love Experience LLC
224 Church Street, Suite J
Huntsville, Al 35801
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